Healthy Sex

Sexual fitness is so awesome. It involves physical fitness, emotional and spiritual fitness. Healthy sex depends on a wealth of many more very special ingredients, like soulful expression, self confidence and esteem. Age, circumstance and personal preference all influence the mix of factors important when integrating Great Sex into our healthy lifestyle.

Check out the Women's page and the Men's page, for gender specific info about sexual fitness.

Find many fresh ideas related to healthy sex in 101 Great Sex Tips

Here are a few activities to promote healthy sex.

Healthy prostate
It is stimulating for the prostate to be massaged regularly. Any male over 40 would benefit from a prostate massage at least once a month. Slowly apply pressure. Press down and release with a smooth steady motion. No need to rub fast and hard. Some steady pressure is OK, but not so much as it hurts. 2-5 minutes is all it takes to promote a healthy prostate. Men can find this massage ticklish and stimulating. A man could massage his own prostate, unless he is overweight. Men say having a partner do it can be fun. More details about prostrate massage.

Move your pelvis
Men and women, get your pelvis in motion. Bend your knees some and then move your pelvis. Back and front, side to side, circle round, make a figure eight. Feel sexy while you are doing it.

Contract your "sex" muscles.
Contract and hold the muscles of your pelvic floor, you know, the muscles "down there." Contract and hold for as long as you can (or want) then release. Another way to do it is contract and release with more rapid timing. It's a fun exercise, just takes a few minutes and can be done most anywhere. People find after even a short time of practicing this kind of muscle contraction, they can start to isolate the various muscles. It's fun to do this in different postures, for example seated, standing, laying down, on all fours, squatting, you get the picture, be creative. As with any exercise add breathing to enhance the experience.

Wear a rubber.
Use a condom.
Protect yourself.

That said - let's talk about some other stuff...

Exploring sexual myths
All through our lifetime we are changing in many ways. As we grow older, our experience and expression of sex and sexuality change along with the entire fabric of our lives. Current media (TV, movies, books, papers, magazines) mirrors commonly held beliefs that good sex fits in a very narrow band. It would lead us to believe that sex is limited to the kind of sex that is common for young people. Hot and heavy, fast, frequent and sloppy sex. This narrow view seems to be all we find represented in the media. It leads people to believe that's all there is. Sexuality and sexual expression can be deep, rich and full.

Orgasm is overrated
Orgasm is not the most important part of having sex. Sex can be successful without orgasm. Orgasm is a complex function. It does not need to occur each and every time you want to experience sexual pleasure. Besides doesn't sex kind of end with the orgasm? Why would you want pleasure to end? More about the orgasm.

Erection is overrated
A man's ability to have and maintain an erection is not the critical to his ability to please his partner and experience satisfying sex. Many factors influence this wonderful ability of a male to become and remain hard. It is not a requirement of intimate, sexual sharing and caring. Physical pleasure is so possible and attainable. Buy some toys.

Sexy at any age
Yes, old people are still sexy. We need lot's more attention, research and information about "sex in the nineties." When people believe they will loose their sexuality with age, guess what happens?

Integrate Healthy Sex
Integrate sex into your life in a way that suits the nature of your self. Everyone is different and unique. Everyone is sexual, by that I mean everyone has some experience of their own sexuality. While some people turn it off at a very early age, never to use the engine again. Others express their sexuality to the extreme outwardly while inwardly not feeling adequate or able to express themselves sexually meaningfully.

Finding your own path to sexual health and satisfaction is a very personal journey. Listening to stories from others about what works for them is great, but each person has to find what is right for them. Healthy sexual expression is a lifelong opportunity. Keep in mind that there are different kinds of religions and ways to express our spiritual nature. Our sexual nature relates directly to our spiritual nature. We deserve to experience pleasure and express our sexual nature to the fullest, in a healthy, satisfying way.

Consider a fantasy
Imagine you are having the most healthy sex imaginable. Explore your attitudes about sex. Do you consider all sex as unhealthy? Do you consider your favorite sexual fantasies healthy or unhealthy? Consider the phrase "happy - healthy sex," what comes to mind? For example, a fantasy that involves being spanked, is that healthy?

I'll get you started with a fantasy I like. Deep in an ancient forest of virgin white pine, near a babbling brook, I lay on a blanket of emerald moss. It is a hot August afternoon, and there is enough clearing that the sun is dappling over my naked body. My lover slowly pours milk over my breasts while massaging it over my skin. Then licking and sucking where the milk was poured.

OK, now it's your turn.

Have lot's of healthy sex fantasies, they are fun and the price is right.